Preparing to share with your partner your plan to have an abortion can feel difficult. 

Ultimately, choosing whether to have an abortion is your decision, and there is no legal obligation to receive your partner’s consent. 

However, sharing your desire for an abortion with your partner can provide you with valuable insight. 

Preparing for the conversation in advance, remaining composed, and listening to your partner can help the conversation go more smoothly. 

Preparing to Talk with Your Partner

Before speaking with your partner about your pregnancy decision, take time to reflect on why you are desiring an abortion. Being prepared with your “why” is a helpful way to initiate the conversation with your partner. 

When preparing, speaking with a trusted friend, faith leader, or counselor may help ensure that your pregnancy decision is right for you and that you’ve considered all the potential outcomes. 

After reflecting on your decision, writing out what you want to say to your partner can allow you to gather your thoughts and calm your mind. 

Sharing with Your Partner

Choose a relaxing environment that provides all the space you need to talk. Both you and your partner want to feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings about the pregnancy decision. 

When discussing a serious matter like abortion, it can be easy to become emotional and lose your composure. Try to remain calm. It can be helpful to share factual information about your pregnancy, like how far along you are and then why you desire to have an abortion. 

After you provide your partner with the facts about your pregnancy and your “why,” try your best to allow him time to respond, while you may think you already know how he feels, he may share something you had not considered. 


Your safety is of utmost importance. If at any time you feel unsafe during the conversation, call 911 and leave immediately. 

If you are in an abusive relationship or are fearful that talking with your partner about your pregnancy could lead to abusive behavior, call the National Domestic Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) for support. 

Making the Final Decision

Making an impulsive decision may lead you to feel regret later. At Lilli Women’s Center, we want to help you better understand all your options and ensure that you make the best decision for your health and future. 

Before making your final decision, be sure that you have considered all of your options. Discussing these options with your partner can be helpful. 

Learning more about your pregnancy with a lab-quality pregnancy test and ultrasound scan is a great place to start. The medical staff can also answer your questions and give you helpful information as you prepare to talk with your partner. 

Contact us today for a free and confidential appointment.